Because it's all about 'Breaking the Ice'

The excitement to meet someone whom you haven’t seen in years or someone you haven’t met before and the anxiety before joining a new work place (and/or school or college) amongst new faces is relatively a similar feeling. Definitely those little butterflies begin to flutter in the stomach. You cannot anticipate what’s in store. It’s just the sheer curiosity that plays a smart game in your mind. And begins the array of questions - what will happen, what kind of people will I be around, who will make the first move and break the ice, will anyone be interested in talking to me, will I be happy, and so on.

More often than not, no matter how hard we try, we end up being a little hesitant. The anxiety and newness begins to take a toll and we start showing the signs of initial nervousness. And it is in this feeling of nervousness and being stuck between walls of inhibitions, we try ‘breaking the ice’. This can be because of two reasons – one that we don’t intend to look stupid in front of new people or two we start feeling that lack of communication is giving out wrong signals about us. So to overcome such feelings, small talk turns into the much needed weapon.

Many a times we may come across as someone who’s high on attitude or may be an introvert (which definitely may not be the case). It’s just the fear and hesitation certain people have in their mind that refrain them from making a start. While some of us may not be good with conversation or words, there may be some who begin to think that the other is superior and is disinterested in talking (which also may not be true).

So while playing the game of “pehle aap pehle aap”, it’s always important to break free. Even if the other one is quiet, you take it forward. Will it make much of a difference? Absolutely! It’s good to showcase who you are than showing them who and what you are not. Initiating wouldn’t make you small and the best solution to becoming a great conversationalist is to lessen your dependence on your ego. Talk free, without the fear of rejection.

Building on relationships is like getting into the commitment of marriage. It’s where you have to tell them who and what you are in the very beginning. Being positive about yourself and keeping a constant smile on your face will not only help you with self-assurance but also let other people embrace you with open arms.

So reprogram your mind, get it in the right place and throw away the fears and anxiety. The world is out there, waiting for you. Go on and smile your best, because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.

Tinkerbell turns Twenty-four

Edited my dear friend's picture with a self-composed poem. Had put this into a silver-brown frame.

As I lovingly call her Tinkerbell, drew and colored this for her with a gift tag.

Wrapped the frame with a lemon green handmade sheet with the Tinkerbell stick-on & gift tag.

Baked a Marble Cake too with tooty-fruity fruits & choco-chips.

Every Dog has it's Day!

Memories good and bad,
Times happy and sad,
If experience is what we name them,
Treasure each one as a precious gem.

For life is all about learning,
A process that's never ending,
Take it all in your stride,
With sheer happiness and pride.

Because its the lessons that bring wisdom,
And deeds that make a man and his kingdom,
Remember your worst and your best,
For nearing perfection can never be a seamless quest.

Keep a strong will and find a way,
What if today is not your day,
Hard work and conviction will always pay,
And like they very strongly say... "Come what may, every dog will have its day."

Oh Boy! (Birthday Wish)

A guy of principles,
Bestowed with sharp intellect.
A character so critical and invincible,
Thinks he’s Mr. Perfect.

He’s sometimes crass,
Sometimes uberly sweet.
A personality with contrasts,
Extremely organized and neat.

Unpredictable and never obvious,
He tries to be particular.
At times gets pretentious,
But one hell of an inquisitor.

But whatever he may be like,
This lad has an aura to him.
And when it comes to matters of Love unlike,
His chances of success remain slim. ;-)

"Happy Birthday"

He’s a guy so shy,
As sweet as an apple pie,
Sometimes tries to be a little sly,
But to me he can never lie.

Brimming with creativity,
He’s blessed with a clean hand,
Continues to wear positivity,
By me he promises to always stand.

He might like remaining quiet,
And seldom makes new friends,
But knowing him has been a complete fun riot,
I hope this caravan never ends.

Here’s wishing him on his 23rd birthday,
A year full of love and success,
Be happy and keep smiling I’d always pray,
And may the Almighty richly bless.

Life will come FULL CIRCLE

She smiles a broken smile,
Manages a tormented inside,
She walks a staggered walk,
And gathers courage to go on…

She's seen life being unfair,
Knows what it takes to survive,
She still keeps her hopes alive,
And lives a moderately melancholy life…

But, that innocent girl loves to laugh,
Has something she never talks about,
She has immense love for her people,
And always remembers the hidden treasure in her loved one.

She goes that direction where life takes her,
Asking herself the questions of right & wrong,
She understands everything happens for a reason,
And waits of the day when the truth will be unravelled.

Sandook

Ek laal rang ki sandook hai mere paas,
Jismein sambhaal kar rakhi hain kuch cheezein khaas.

Kuch yaadein bhi hain unmein,
Aur thode anchhue ehsaas.

Kuch kaagaz ke tukde hain,
Syaahi ki boondon ke saath.

Hain kuch murjhaaye phool aur muskurate chehron ki tasveerein,
Jo lejaate hain un yaadon ke paas.

Rakha hai usse kahin sabse chupakar,
Dekhti hun kabhi jab koi na ho aas paas.

Ek laal rang ki sandook hai mere paas,
Jismein sambhaal kar rakhi hain kuch cheezein khaas.