Because it's all about 'Breaking the Ice'

The excitement to meet someone whom you haven’t seen in years or someone you haven’t met before and the anxiety before joining a new work place (and/or school or college) amongst new faces is relatively a similar feeling. Definitely those little butterflies begin to flutter in the stomach. You cannot anticipate what’s in store. It’s just the sheer curiosity that plays a smart game in your mind. And begins the array of questions - what will happen, what kind of people will I be around, who will make the first move and break the ice, will anyone be interested in talking to me, will I be happy, and so on.

More often than not, no matter how hard we try, we end up being a little hesitant. The anxiety and newness begins to take a toll and we start showing the signs of initial nervousness. And it is in this feeling of nervousness and being stuck between walls of inhibitions, we try ‘breaking the ice’. This can be because of two reasons – one that we don’t intend to look stupid in front of new people or two we start feeling that lack of communication is giving out wrong signals about us. So to overcome such feelings, small talk turns into the much needed weapon.

Many a times we may come across as someone who’s high on attitude or may be an introvert (which definitely may not be the case). It’s just the fear and hesitation certain people have in their mind that refrain them from making a start. While some of us may not be good with conversation or words, there may be some who begin to think that the other is superior and is disinterested in talking (which also may not be true).

So while playing the game of “pehle aap pehle aap”, it’s always important to break free. Even if the other one is quiet, you take it forward. Will it make much of a difference? Absolutely! It’s good to showcase who you are than showing them who and what you are not. Initiating wouldn’t make you small and the best solution to becoming a great conversationalist is to lessen your dependence on your ego. Talk free, without the fear of rejection.

Building on relationships is like getting into the commitment of marriage. It’s where you have to tell them who and what you are in the very beginning. Being positive about yourself and keeping a constant smile on your face will not only help you with self-assurance but also let other people embrace you with open arms.

So reprogram your mind, get it in the right place and throw away the fears and anxiety. The world is out there, waiting for you. Go on and smile your best, because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.

"Happy Birthday"

He’s a guy so shy,
As sweet as an apple pie,
Sometimes tries to be a little sly,
But to me he can never lie.

Brimming with creativity,
He’s blessed with a clean hand,
Continues to wear positivity,
By me he promises to always stand.

He might like remaining quiet,
And seldom makes new friends,
But knowing him has been a complete fun riot,
I hope this caravan never ends.

Here’s wishing him on his 23rd birthday,
A year full of love and success,
Be happy and keep smiling I’d always pray,
And may the Almighty richly bless.

Life will come FULL CIRCLE

She smiles a broken smile,
Manages a tormented inside,
She walks a staggered walk,
And gathers courage to go on…

She's seen life being unfair,
Knows what it takes to survive,
She still keeps her hopes alive,
And lives a moderately melancholy life…

But, that innocent girl loves to laugh,
Has something she never talks about,
She has immense love for her people,
And always remembers the hidden treasure in her loved one.

She goes that direction where life takes her,
Asking herself the questions of right & wrong,
She understands everything happens for a reason,
And waits of the day when the truth will be unravelled.

The Wonderland

Strolling down the memory lane,

Taking in the reflection of sunny smiles,

Shining through a little window pane,

Encouraging me to walk some extra miles.

The path had its share of curves and bends,

Un-folding the chapters of joys and sorrows,

Flocked with images of people once called FRIENDS,

Unveiling a gloomy impression of tomorrows.

With a heavy heart and an unfavourable journey ahead,

Deciding on what is it that made it all this way,

Gathering the pieces of broken threads,

Figuring it out who it is that might make it okay.

On covering some distance on the uneven trail,

With the Rain God showering His mercy on me,

Wondering that there is none who would listen to my tale,

I started sprinting towards the legendary speaking tree.

Thinking that it might help me talk everything out,

And impart me with its yellowed counsels,

I kept rushing ahead when I heard him shout,

"Hey there! Stop!"

Astonished, I continued walking when he began to whistle.

Pirouetting, I looked straight to where he stood,

Trying to recognise who he actually was.

He came closer unveling his face from the black hood,

And all I could do was smile and pause.

He walked ahead smiling his best,

Embraced me in a big warm hug.

Inquired if he could be my guest,

I nodded a Yes with a shoulder shrug.

We continued walking while he threw questions,

Probed to find out the reason for haste.

"Let's not get into that", I made a suggestion,

For I didn't want to sound lonely and waste.

He held my hand and promised not to leave,

And that we were the best of friends,

I was made to believe,

For now, forever, till the end.

I looked up at him with wistful eyes,

While he smiled his reassuring smile.

And then I was hit by another surprise,

When that familiar sound made me agile.

I frantically started looking for my phone,

And realised it was ringing somewhere close.

But when it gave out its final groan,

I woke up with a startle and froze.

"Jeez! it was a dream", I blurted groggily and turned to my noisy neighbour.

8 MISSED CALLS & 4 TEXT MESSAGES, it said.

On clicking the Log I saw it there,

The name was enough to make me break the bed. (^_*)

She's just a Woman

She’s no puppet, no doll.

Neither a game you play,

Nor a flask of alcohol.She’s just a woman,Not some material to maul.

She loves and showers ample care.Goes out of her way to help,And still bears, the pain, the stares.But there’s always a smile,That she manages with flair.

Playing roles of a mother and daughter,a lover, a wife, a sister and a friend.Cares Who!And the world continues to slaughter.

Misunderstood as she is most of the times,She continues to discharge her duties.Still remaining subject to crimes,In a society of beasts relishing on beauties.

DAY-DREAMS

A day so bright and cold,

The sun shone to a warm gold.

I wanted to be under the quilt's fold,

But the alarm went on to run in bold.

I woke up from a dream so old,

Saw your eyes and the story they told.

Wish I could get lost in that wold,

Alongside the river bed as we strolled.

May be it was the last night's witness,

It made me smile out of wistfullness.

Still under the spell of your thoughts,

I forgot about the time I had caught.

A quick shower had worked wonders,

Out I was from the far yonder.

I jumped on the back-seat of the cab,

Sat by the window to keep the outside-view on tab.

The radio played your favorite song,

It made me hum it out along.

Came back the memories of that year,

When you and me were quite so near.

The thought of you again had brought a smile,

But there were no regrets, not even for a while.

I then realised it was just the last night's witness,

That had brought the smile out of wistfullness.