Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Life in a METRO

Unlike Mumbai, the city of dreams and aspirations, Delhi is the city of cultures and traditions. I’m not going to point out differences or make any comparisons between the two because they’re both amazing in their respective terms. And this isn’t about that. 

Modern Delhi, as it is known, has housed numerous kingdoms and empires in its glorious past. It has also been captured, ransacked and rebuilt several times, which makes it a cluster of a number of cities spread across the metropolitan region. This is why Delhi is sometimes called the City of cities. But this is not even about Delhi’s history.

Being the City of cities, Delhi’s culture and lifestyle have been influenced by its lengthy history and geographical proximity. It has been a host to people from myriad cultures and traditions, embracing one and all. Apart from a majority of north Indians, one can find many people from the south, the west and the east. And the best place to find them all together, standing shoulder-to-shoulder is none other than the city’s lifeline – the Delhi Metro.

It’s been more than a decade since its first section (Red Line) opened on December 24, 2002, and Delhiites breathed a sigh of relief. For them it was nothing less than a blessing in disguise! A saviour from the maddening traffic on roads, safer and cleaner than the other public transport systems. And not to forget the fully air conditioned coaches. 

It was only after I finished high school that I started commuting through metro. Maintaining a seven year long relationship hasn’t been easy. My travels have taught me a lot and to some extent, have helped me become a better person. It has been a journey of mixed emotions – happiness, laughter, tears, vent outs, agitation, irritation, care, concern, respect and so on. It has not only facilitated travelling and connectivity, but it has made me fall in love with this city (yes, despite of whatever is written and heard about Delhi).

Besides that, there’s much more that it has to offer to its daily riders like myself. For instance, travelling with people from diverse cultural backgrounds is in itself a huge giveaway by Delhi Metro. At one nook you may find two smartly dressed Manipuri girls talking rapidly in their native language, and a trader with a big paunch from Chawri Bazar taking bulk orders over his phone on the other. And that is not all. 

If one observes closely and carefully, a metro ride is nothing less than a typical Bollywood masala blockbuster. There’s romance (couples holding hands, coochie-cooing) and comedy. Lots of action (CISF staff dragging men out of the women’s coach and the never-ending arguments) topped with drama (women bitching about their mother and daughter-in-laws). From the fashionable and tech-savvy college-goers to the stylishly dressed office folk, the disastrous unshapely dames to the crotch scratching monstrous chaps, the book readers, the music lovers, the prayer enchanters, the loud conversationalists and the bird watchers… you will find them all. 

And there is more… the emotional outbursts, the broken relationships, the cry babies, the feeding mothers, the loitering nippers who love stepping on your feet, peek-a-boo into co-passengers’ cell phones, the pretentious friends who seem to forget who you are, the super enthusiastic teenage crowd giggling and jabbering at the top of their voices, the innocent hippies and firangs, and the ultimate goal – to grab a personal space on the way to one’s destination.

And if that is not enough, then the once in a while technical defaults and breakdowns causing havoc and stampedes across densely populated metro stations. It is moments like these when the feeling of admiration for the city goes for a toss, not only because of the crowded lot, but because of lack of civic sense it possesses. The pushing and pulling, screeching and shrieking, arguments and misbehaviour… it all starts to take a toll on one’s mood and the entire day is screwed. I fail to understand the need for such ghastly behaviour. Yes, everyone needs to rush to their respective offices. Everyone has to meet deadlines. But will the inhumane attitude do any good? But who cares! 

On records, Delhi Metro reported its highest ridership of 2,504,900 (a day) as on August 8, 2013, resultant of more than 2500 train trips that are made each day traversing over 69,000 km. With an ever increasing populace of Delhi and majority relying on the metro for their daily travel, I strongly feel that DMRC has been putting in a lot of efforts. But it is for the localities to understand and realise the importance of such efforts. Reckless mannerisms do nothing but get a bad name to the city and its people. High time people start taking responsibility of their actions. And as Bapu rightly puts it, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”


Because it's all about 'Breaking the Ice'

The excitement to meet someone whom you haven’t seen in years or someone you haven’t met before and the anxiety before joining a new work place (and/or school or college) amongst new faces is relatively a similar feeling. Definitely those little butterflies begin to flutter in the stomach. You cannot anticipate what’s in store. It’s just the sheer curiosity that plays a smart game in your mind. And begins the array of questions - what will happen, what kind of people will I be around, who will make the first move and break the ice, will anyone be interested in talking to me, will I be happy, and so on.

More often than not, no matter how hard we try, we end up being a little hesitant. The anxiety and newness begins to take a toll and we start showing the signs of initial nervousness. And it is in this feeling of nervousness and being stuck between walls of inhibitions, we try ‘breaking the ice’. This can be because of two reasons – one that we don’t intend to look stupid in front of new people or two we start feeling that lack of communication is giving out wrong signals about us. So to overcome such feelings, small talk turns into the much needed weapon.

Many a times we may come across as someone who’s high on attitude or may be an introvert (which definitely may not be the case). It’s just the fear and hesitation certain people have in their mind that refrain them from making a start. While some of us may not be good with conversation or words, there may be some who begin to think that the other is superior and is disinterested in talking (which also may not be true).

So while playing the game of “pehle aap pehle aap”, it’s always important to break free. Even if the other one is quiet, you take it forward. Will it make much of a difference? Absolutely! It’s good to showcase who you are than showing them who and what you are not. Initiating wouldn’t make you small and the best solution to becoming a great conversationalist is to lessen your dependence on your ego. Talk free, without the fear of rejection.

Building on relationships is like getting into the commitment of marriage. It’s where you have to tell them who and what you are in the very beginning. Being positive about yourself and keeping a constant smile on your face will not only help you with self-assurance but also let other people embrace you with open arms.

So reprogram your mind, get it in the right place and throw away the fears and anxiety. The world is out there, waiting for you. Go on and smile your best, because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.